My mother is extremely unaccepting. I am a female-to-male transgender, and she blatantly refuses to allow me any room to be myself. She pushes girly things on me, tells me she’ll never let me dress the way I want, and so on, and so forth.
If you think that I should be allowed to be who I am, please reblog this.
Ooh, gonna have to fire up TunnelBear and watch that.
There was an article I read about Harper earlier this year that got me SO annoyed… He declined to state whether he’d had top or bottom surgery, which is absolutely his right. And then the next two paragraphs were Kathleen talking about trying to come to terms with [the surgery he had]. And while yes, including his parents’ reaction to the process was an important part of the article, that just struck me as being totally fucking insensitive and disrespectful.
It is fascinating to see TMDR get more comfortable with it as the years go by, though. He blogged about “Simone” - three years ago this week, as it happens - and only referred to “someone I’m close to.” I’m so glad, for all their sakes, that Harper’s parents are so openly supportive of him now.
For nearly five years, I’ve identified myself as a male. I’m 17 years old now.
Today, I spent the entire day looking at binders for my chest. I’ve decided that I want the cheapest one I can find because that’s all I thought my parents would be willing to buy me - and that’s fine. (it’s 30$)
I tried to talk to my mom about buying one for me, but she refused to discuss it with me. We were walking out of our driveway to go for a walk, and since my dad wasn’t there, I thought it would be a good time to discuss it. I asked her if we could talk about the binder I want, and she said that she didn’t want to talk about it right then. I asked her why and she didn’t answer. I asked her when we could talk about it because I am actually quite desperate at this point, and these are her words exactly: “Leave me alone!” I turned my ass around and went back into the house.
She’s uncomfortable with me wanting to be male. She doesn’t understand it. I’ve applied for some free binders at two separate sites, but they have long waiting lists and I doubt I’ll get one by this September, when school begins. And I refuse to go back as a girl.
I’ve used duct tape in the past, which hurt immensely. Last year for my birthday, my mom bought me a cheap ACE bandage to flatten my chest - it worked aesthetically, but it hurt my back so badly that I had to lay down in the nurse’s office.
What I’m asking for is a free binder from one of you guys. I have no where else to turn to, and I’m really upset right now. If someone is willing to donate one to me, I’d be very thankful.
I’m just tired of this fucking body and no one seems to understand that.
If anyone can help him out guys
[TW potentially triggering discussion if dysmorphic]
When/if I bind, I use a bandeau bra. I think I bought it at Dots for ~$3 (could probably find something similar at Walmart), it’s relatively plain, and very comfortable. One bra brings my 42D down to ~B, and another layer brings them down more. It’s not the best option, but it is a quick (and cheap) fix.
I had no idea that Thomas Dolby has a trans* son. That’s kinda neat!
When I found out, I freaked out and got excited, telling my mom, my brother, and my dad.
That was a fantastic article…until they included the quote from his mother about what surgery he had 5 paragraphs after Harper said he wouldn’t discuss it.